I want to apologize if I sound judgmental in any part of the below post. Reading you, I have been thru and still going thru lot of things you mentioned, these comments are from my own experience.
Jorge, you intellectually know the process in out in your head. From what you wrote, I can see that you thoroughly studied the material and have a very good understanding of the process. What we need is to know it by experience , have it in your experience, so that the knowing is complete and the change will be more profound and lasting.
From your posts, I understand you know a lot about emotions, the biological aspect and how to regulate them. But it seems like you are not using the skills when you need it the most
I had the exact same experience before, especially a knot in my chest. I used to feel that heaviness and I feared the emotion. After I learn to regulate the emotions via deep breathing and Safeplace, I observed this feeling in a calm state. Here is what I found :
"I was in a hurry to get things done all the time, impatient to learn everything and accomplish things. Even a minor distraction will tick me off. I also observed that there was a fear of fear of the feeling itself"
There are two aspects to these thoughts, the dance between Inner Critic and Adapted voice. I am sure you know them well from Rande's book.
The point is, if you are feeling emotional, you need to regulate them to open the possibility of understanding them.
Promise yourself that you will keep a journal on deep breathing and safe place throughout your trading process each day.
I start with deep breathing and safeplace before I start the computer, as I evaluate the set up, entering trades, managing trades and while exiting trades. Trust me on this, this stuff really works with practice.
One thing I recommend is to use a Spirometer to enhance your deep breathing. I used to be at 3000 ml, now I max out 4000 ml and can stay there for over 5 seconds. Use it few times every day.
Jorge, as I mentioned to you earlier, I am at a stage where I am working with Ruler, Sage, Caregiver and Warrior. So far things are looking good. I will give a more detailed feedback once I complete this in few months time.
Since you already completed "Mind Muscles" program, probably you have something there to regulate emotions and beliefs. What ever you choose put them into practice and have it in your experience.
I'm also in the computer field (Infrastructure & Engineering Manager) and I came across Randee website, downloaded the book and plan on reading it over the next fee days. Ive not started trading live but have been learning about how to trade for a living. My plans are to prepare my self for the next phase in my life; I'm 52 and see a time when I'm no longer appealing to corporate America and I'm looking for a business to maintain my family. I have invested in my trading education and I'm trying to figure out the right type of trading to fit my personality and all the psychology before selecting a system.
Any way I appreciate the dialog between you two. I have been looking at the following people to take me in the right direction (developing a trader's mindset) Randee Howell, Denise Shull, Dr. Kenneth Reid and Gary Dayton. Any recommendations or feedback would be helpful.
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Whatever system or instrument you choose, make sure you have very clear statistics on your systems performance and expectancy. Having confidence in the system you use is one major aspect of psychology. Thinking in probabilities is paramount for trading. If you have clear statistics for your system including win to loss ratio, Risk Reward ratio etc, you will know whether your system have an edge to succeed in the long run. Clear understanding of this probability will elevate your confidence and psychology. Please use your Sim trading period to figure out your trading systems expectancy.
Most of these programs target emotional regulation and understanding and replacing limiting beliefs. If you have taken any trades thus far, observing your behavior during trading will point to areas you can improve, like
1) impulsive trading, trading outside the trading plan
2) Hesitant to enter trades
3) Taking profit too soon, having difficulty letting the profits run
As you can see, you will need a clear trading plan and statistics for your trading system before dealing with psychology.
How will you know you are unable to follow a trading plan, if you dont have one
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I think what really helps is having a solid strategy and experience in the markets(trade the range if your a day trader). Trade the same way every time. Once you get over the fear of losing things become easier. Keeping stops inline with trading account, letting profits run inline with S&R and average range, and not getting in your own way. I think when you're new you don't know your butt from your face so you get worked up over not being successful when you haven't taken the time to develop your skills. Depression, fear, anxiety, euphoria, etc, it's all normal and OK. Anyways that how it is for me. I had to change my viewpoint on trading and what it is for me. Mindfulness helps, I don't mediate, but just focusing helps, I guess you could call that meditation. Anyways Randy seams like a good dude. The one thing his book has given was a different perspective on life. If you like doing things on your own Garry Van Warmerdam is good too, he's not trading related, but it all applies. Great self mastery course. Happy trading folks.
"Small disciplines repeated with consistency every day lead to great achievements gained slowly over time."
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With regard to developing a trader's mindset I can recommend (besides Rande Howell and Gary Dayton) the books from: Ari Kiev, Steve Ward, Mark Douglas, Adrienne Toghraie, John Coates, Michael Martin, Steve Peters. Hope this is helpful and I wish you good luck.