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it was a cloned debit card they used as credit....no pin number needed....all charges were made in person in Atlanta whilst I was in sunny AZ.....I think I'll have most of the money back tomorrow.....so it should be painless except the feeling of being violated.....very disturbing....
I too went through a stolen check thing many years ago....and yes it was a nightmare.....
Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication, Leonardo da Vinci
Most people chose unhappiness over uncertainty, Tim Ferris
Used your debit card at a restaurant lately? Had a similar issue a few years back and the charges were made in the Atlanta area. Living in Michigan at the time it was unlikely I bought those appliances...
I cycle (destroy and request a new card every yr). I also have multiple VISA prepaid debit cards that I use for smaller purchases at places where I don't quite trust their 'system'. That way if one of those get hacked its only $100-$200. Very rarely do I use my actual bank debit anymore.
I rather like these ideas...I shall implement the rotating debit card immediately (of course I have a new one now but will rotate it in January next year).
I also like the prepaid visa idea as well.....I like it a lot actually...for a variety of reasons...
Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication, Leonardo da Vinci
Most people chose unhappiness over uncertainty, Tim Ferris
I really like the idea of using them online. That way if one of my profiles (ebay, amazon, etc) is compromised then only that card is affected. And most of the time I keep small amounts ($5-$10) on them until I am ready to make a purchase.
I learned it from a business mentor as a way to budget yourself. Only load the card at the beginning of the month with what you are alotted to spend.
Just found your second journal. Glad to see you are still trading.
I have to say a few things with complete frankness, if you don't mind.... not because I'm smarter (I'm not) or a better trader (no way)... but because I feel this could help you.
You forgot the original insight!!! "The secret sauce is YOU!!!" Beyond a certain level of technical trading skill (which you have), trading is 100% psychology!! (I think this is what @tigertrader is trying to get at when he speaks of 'attitude' replying to you.)
Reading your second journal with fresh eyes, I see a talented trader who is trying to fix a psychological problem technically, an impossibility. You are running away (trying to) from feelings you don't want to feel into an imagined safety of infallible technical rules. Of course, you know they don't exist... the answer is working on yourself.
I just posted on my blog the following quote: “The unconscious will let you have only what you think you deserve.” - from Letting Go, by Dr. David R. Hawkins
I found this insight to be true and worth pondering. This is the reason for our negative feelings, self-sabotage, and every other type of aberration we commit while trading. Consciously, we know our goals, methods...etc. But the subconcious rebels; there is a deep and powerful dissonance.
The answer is NOT getting more technical, but getting more personal with yourself.
Peace brother.
PS Glad your dad is Ok... I lost 3 family members to cancer.
You are never in the wrong place... but sometimes you are in the right place looking at things in the wrong way.
I wanted to say thank you to all the traders that skyped me or sent emails with their well wishes during my surgery and subsequent recovery.....
In a nutshell, I had holes between my brain cavity and my middle ear that over time became larger and larger and leaked spinal fluid into my middle ear causing all sorts of issues. Eventually brain tissue herniated into those holes and began filling my middle ear up with both fluid and brain tissue. None of this was good as you might surmise.
My new ear nose and throat specialist finally figured out what was causing me so much trouble and sent me to University of Tucson Medical Center to have it fixed.....the surgeon was one of the top specialist in this field (there are only 200 nationwide) and his team took good care of me.
Its now four weeks post surgery and my head is still a bit mushy where they cut my skull open and my ear is still full of surgical packing material which makes for a rather odd feeling in there and my ear is completely numb due to the incision but no pain except for where they seperated the muscle connecting the jawbone to the skull.....that hurts a bit but otherwise I'm doing pretty well....
Post surgery symptoms were pretty harsh....lots of hallucinations that drove me near insane for a week.....extreme vertigo which required me to use a cane to avoid taking a digger.....and I still can't bend over or lift anything heavier than a gallon of milk.....but I'm driving finally and doing most of my normal daily routines. I'm still getting a bit tired in the afternoons but that is getting better day by day.
I started trading again last Wednesday after watching Monday and Tuesday.....it took me a couple of days with live money to get back in the swing of things.....but since last Wednesday, I am break even.....three losing days and two winning days and my account stands at about the exact same amount as I started with last week....so I am happy about that.
I had a couple of weeks to do nothing but think.....my motivation to study, read or otherwise engage in meaningful mental activity completely disappeared after the surgery and so instead of catching up on my reading and video watching, I just ignored everything and literally spent nearly 10 days alone most of the time in complete silence. These days were long and mostly boring but I learned something.....I can wait it out.....with no real strength to do much, no interest in reading or even watching TV, I was pretty much forced to simply sit and do nothing while I regained my strength.
This was a pretty eye opening experience and one that I spent a long time thinking about in relation to trading. I figured if I could lay on the couch, sit in silence for hours and end up being ok mentally with it, I could sit for hours waiting for a trade or sitting in open trade waiting for it to play out.....and these last few days I've been doing just that.....lots of waiting and no real mental stress......I've waited for stops to be hit and for profitable trades to work.....and while one of those losing days I was totally on the wrong side of the market, I still waited patiently for the trades to either work or not. And when I stopped out for the day, my sense of a wasted day was missing....it was like, "oh well it didn't work today". And the same with the winners.....they worked and that was great.....pack it in for the day and come back tomorrow.
Ok so all that is probably to much information but lots of people have enquired and I thought I'd update here.....and for the morbid, here's a picture of my head two days post surgery....
Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication, Leonardo da Vinci
Most people chose unhappiness over uncertainty, Tim Ferris
