Sorry to report sad news... my mom passed away Christmas eve after a brief illness... Haven't been trading... probably won't for a while... lots to do including moving.
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I appreciate your kind thoughts... she was a remarkable woman from a remarkable lineage and the trunk of our family tree... I don't think any of us have fully absorbed that she is gone.
The strangest part for me now is that this is the first time in my adult life (other than for a brief time in 2002) that I have had no one to account to or take care of... the door is wide open for a step into the "unknown"... feels a tad daunting at the moment to say the least.
you are absolutely right David... There are so many directions to go in... My first step will be to simplify and unencumber... that will create even more opportunities.
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Very sorry for your loss Saroj. May GOD give peace to the departed soul and courage to all the family members left behind to face this difficult time. All our prayers are with you and your family.
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All that I am or ever hope to be, I owe to my angel Mother. ~Abraham Lincoln
God could not be everywhere, so he created mothers. ~Jewish Proverb
A man loves his sweetheart the most, his wife the best, but his mother the longest. ~Irish Proverb
Grown don't mean nothing to a mother. A child is a child. They get bigger, older, but grown? What's that suppose to mean? In my heart it don't mean a thing. ~Toni Morrison, Beloved, 1987
When I was a child, my mother inspired me, 'If you become a soldier, you'll be a general. If you become a monk you'll end up as the pope.' Instead I became a painter and wound up as Picasso.
-- Pablo Picasso
Saroj, losing your mother is like losing GOD personified.... may her soul rest in peace
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Im new to the forum... and havent really talked with you yet, so i really cant get to confortable without sounding fake, but id like to leave my condolescences and hope you get settled alright and back on track soon...
I havent been trough anything like that yet, so i really dont know what to say, but i guess i really cant help trying to give you my strenght...
Best regards
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Soo sorry for your loss Saroj , all my prayers will go to you and your family , May God grant her soul peace and happiness , and grant you strength .
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Saroj,
So sorry.. I empathize with your loss. I had noticed that you weren't around much recently, and I wondered if you were ok. Sorry that I didn't say more.
In case you feel you could use some support of a different kind than you are receiving, there is a good book called The Grief Recovery Handbook that discusses actual action steps to help one directly address a loss and how to move into and through the feelings that keep some people stuck.
I'm sorry for your loss. Please accept my condolences.
I'm trying to write something in order to ease your grief, but it's hard because death is a delicate thing. There are cultures that celebrates death as a start of a new beginning, and there are cultures that looks at death as a total end.
I myself believe that we don't really die. The only thing that dies is this bio suite we call the body. Our real essences can't die nor vanish, has always existed and is always going to exist. It's also been said that death is really hard for us that keep on living in this reality, because of all the lack, that creates our grief.
I could go on writing words for miles, and I could go even deeper on the topic, but I thing that the only thing that will help you the best, is yourself and what your heart is telling you to be true. If you need to grieve, then grieve and don't hold back!
And whatever you need to do, just listen to your heart, your mom will be there to guide you!
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Condolences. Parents (and children) comprise some of the core columns in the architecture of our lives and when they pass, although everything is the same, the building seems very different and it takes time to adjust on many levels.
One way of looking at families - and of course there are many - is to regard them as lineages of virtue, its development or lack thereof. So the best we can do is continue whatever lineage of virtue we have received from those who came before and hopefully pass on even more to those whom we bring into the world later.
All best.
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George, I am in agreement with your beliefs so far as you expressed them above. I would enjoy hearing more if/when you care to share them, publically or privately. Thank you.
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Very sorry to hear. My wife's father died on the day before Christmas Eve, two days after the doctor told him he had at least a few weeks left. Sadly, my wife was not able to travel to see him in time before his passing. Trust me when I say we know what you are going through.
Bad day....lost my mom today. Difficult writing this but I think that family is such an important part of trading successfully that I thought I'd share.
My mom was the most amazing, incredible, kind woman that you could imagine...always there with a warm smile when you were down and unconditional love when you needed it most. No greater supporter of anything I did be it in or outside of trading. Her passing comes as an unexpected and tragic shock...not prepared for it to say the least. Her Neurosurgeon, Dr. Aldo Rosemblat and everyone in the ICU at Northwest Medical Center in Florida treated my mother and me with the utmost dignity, respect and compassion. Brought me to tears with the extent of the help they offered...
I know the title of this thread is different, but how about we semi-call it the "Tribute to Mom" thread?
Mom was very sick for a long time, we discussed the final leg of her journey....but never thought it would end like this. For everyone out there reading this - Hug your mom and give her a kiss....call her up and tell her you love her....make an effort to be there for that sunday dinner.....and do it often...you never know when you might not have that precious chance again.
...let's hear your Mom story...it matters!
Mom is precious, you only have one Mom!
Johnny
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Deeply sorry for your loss. I wish you and your family strength during this difficult time.
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hi @Devil Man really very deeply saddened to hear on your loss. Mothers are universal.
there is no one like Mother and nothing like Mother's love.
Am going to pay my respect & will pray for your Mother. I love all Mothers as I feel they are universal..Mother, Mother Earth, Mother Teresa...all great Mothers.
I write this with tears and though maybe a language unknown to you pls accept this as a tribute ..as this always strikes a chord in my deepest heart when listening to it since it is conceptualized around Mother..it is about a boy saying that Mother knows everything.
Hold strong and please do let me know if can do anything.
thnx
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You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers bro.
I'm 48 yrs old. My mother died from breast cancer in 1972 when I was 5. Believe me when I tell you, although I can not prove it on a rational level, your mother is now closer to you in the realm she is in now, the spiritual plane of existence ,than she was in this physical plane. This next realm is far beyond our comprehension we simply don't have the tools to perceive it... But that in no way means it's not real. A lower level of existence can never comprehend a higher state.
Sincerely
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@Blash thank you I really appreciate it...and I totally get your message on the spiritual plane, thank you! I'm so sorry to hear you lost your mom at such a young age...however, it's apparent she made her impression on you with your high standard of character and integrity.
thank you again Ron,
Johnny
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So sorry for your loss Devil Man. I pray The Lord gives you the peace that passes all understanding. Thanks for reminding me to appreciate my mom. God bless you buddie
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My deepest condolences to you Devil. When I read your post, it brought a few tears back in my eyes. May all the good memories of your mom lighten your heavy heart.
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@Devil Man Jonny, I am sorry to hear about your mom.
I've never had a strong relationship with my mom, and after my grandmothers passing late last year that relationship has basically broke down completely to the point where we no longer speak -- which if I am being honest is far less stressful for me.
I am jealous of friends that have loving and supportive families. It is not something to be taken lightly or disregarded, there are many out there that do not enjoy something like that. I miss my grandmother, we were extremely close.
I am thankful that after moving to Ecuador I've been "adopted" by a new family and it provides great comfort knowing there are people around you that are extremely supportive of you.
I too have never had to experience what you are going through. Watching my grandfather die who I was very close to was heartbreaking. Seeing what my Dad experienced gave me an idea of how tough it must be.
My thoughts and prayers with you.
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Deeply saddened to hear your mom's passing away.
How ever young a child may be ...... losing one's parent at any age is very difficult to cope up with.
My heartfelt condolences to you and may GOD give peace to the departed soul and strength to you and the family.
Steve
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Sorry to hear the sad news. I want to fill the post with 100 hugging smilies or something, but an internet cartoon seems a cheap thing to convey such wishes. Well wishes and sympathies to you and yours.
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@Big Mike thank you Mike for your kind words....and I am sorry to hear about your grandmother, I know you were very close to her. Relationships with family can be very difficult...I know I had my ups and downs with my mom when I was younger...but it finally stabilized and I realized what a wonderful person she was. Glad to hear of your "adopted" family..I'm sure its a very healthy relationship.
thanks again Mike
Johnny
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So sorry to hear your pain Johnny. Reading your words and others brings tears. And a first thought is “....at least you were there....”. I lived across the country when my Dad went but was fortunate to be there for my Mom's last years.
Only cuz you ask for 'Mom stories'... first memory that jumps out was a trip she wanted to make to Jacksonville for a last visit with a relative. That required a several hour plane flight and some smart-aleck doctor at the time didn't think much of it, even saying in a sarcastic tone: ”go ahead if you want, some people sky dive...” She disliked docs to put it politely so of course that probably helped settled it---off we went with 24hr oxygen and wheelchair. Result? She needed oxygen less there! Amazin. And she was so happy to find we could rent some fat-tired buggy and move along the beach. And the return home? (bearing in mind she could be a bit disoriented from 'normal' reality at times), her first words as I wheeled her into the house? “What are we doing in this place??” (How little we know of this plane.)
Peace and prayers be with you.
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thank you @casey44...So sorry for your loss...and yes we can never plan these things can we? Great story of your mom...thank you for sharing your special moment in time. You're a good son.
Johnny
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